I watched a TV program today, where an abusive husband and his abused wife were interviewed, and again, I was astonished. \u00a0 See, I was too young to understand the whole women’s lib thing when Gloria Steinem was beginning her women’s movement. \u00a0I remember seeing her on TV and thinking how brave she was. \u00a0I remember thinking what big trouble she was getting into, too! \u00a0Those were the times. \u00a0But right now, I miss her in that venue. \u00a0I’m all grown up and I completely understand the great things she did for women, and how much of that ground has been lost in recent years. \u00a0You’ve heard me say that before.<\/p>\n
The man interviewed on this TV show described, devoid of emotion, how he beat his wife, timed how long he choked her so she wouldn’t die but would be subdued while his anger subsided, how, yep, he broke her nose. \u00a0He admitted he beat her while holding their baby girl in his “other hand”. \u00a0He admitted that, after beating her until she bled, he made her get in the bathtub because she was bleeding on the floor and that made him madder. \u00a0And she did it! \u00a0Got into the tub, fully clothed, and washed the blood off of herself….while he watched her cry. \u00a0And the wife? What was she doing while this story…her story…unfolded? \u00a0She smiled. \u00a0At first I thought it was an act. \u00a0Eventually she said she smiled out of embarrassment. \u00a0 And she didn’t cry until she was reminded that her baby girl could be killed by this idiot when he went nuts over something being spilled. \u00a0That made her cry. \u00a0Thank God. \u00a0She at least had compassion for her child, if not for herself.<\/p>\n
Another twist? \u00a0The male psychologist (not psychiatrist) told the wife she needed to own her role in this abuse. \u00a0Essentially, she brought it on herself. \u00a0Oh. \u00a0My. \u00a0God. \u00a0Well that got shot down pretty quickly, thank God.<\/p>\n
When asked why she stayed with this excuse for a man, she finally admitted that she had no money and nowhere to go. \u00a0Well there you go. \u00a0Gloria Steinem once said that a woman with small children is one man away from welfare. \u00a0She also said a women without a man is like fish without a bicycle.<\/p>\n
But the REAL truth about this abused woman is that she has no respect for herself, doesn’t love herself, and that’s sad. It’s also very common. \u00a0No way of knowing why she feels that way about herself, but clearly she did not realize her value as a human being. \u00a0Problem? \u00a0She’s raising a DAUGHTER in this mess.<\/p>\n
I’m no psychiatrist, but this ‘man’ looked like a serial killer (of women) in the making. \u00a0And he looked like a stone cold sociopath. It was chilling. \u00a0 And he looked like he was saying what the interviewer want to hear. \u00a0Example: \u00a0I’m disgusted with myself. \u00a0Yeah right. \u00a0He does not deserve this, or any other, woman. \u00a0And he needs to be locked up, away from society. \u00a0He’s a disaster in the making.<\/p>\n
Women! \u00a0When are we going to realize that we have to love ourselves enough to have a standard!? \u00a0We have to EXPECT behaviors from men that meet those standards, and if the men fall short, we have to like ourselves enough to say bye-bye! \u00a0Some behaviors might be what men want and not be what works for US and that’s fine. \u00a0But for God’s sake, walk away. DON’T BE DESPERATE. \u00a0If a man is an abuser, he has it in him<\/strong> to do that. \u00a0Do you need to know more? \u00a0If he has it in him to beat up a women he is NOT A MAN. Leave!<\/p>\n Bottom line: \u00a0It’s not just women over fifty who are abused and treated like garbage. \u00a0It’s younger women too. \u00a0Where is this coming from? \u00a0It’s coming from a society that has begun to view women as commodities again. \u00a0It is coming from a society that has realized it’s okay to abuse us, murder us, discriminate against us, throw us away. \u00a0Worse? \u00a0Women are buying into it.<\/p>\n The only solution to this situation is for women to start realizing we have value in life, as more than just an orifice or an incubator. \u00a0We have hearts, souls, minds, lives which are important. \u00a0And another thing? \u00a0Get it through your head that sex and love are NOT the same thing!<\/p>\n I might as well stop talking. \u00a0It’s useless. \u00a0Here’s a good one. \u00a0Pack heat. \u00a0When the asshole starts choking you, defend yourself. \u00a0Better yet, GET. \u00a0OUT. \u00a0Because if you do not, good chance he’s going to kill you. \u00a0Happens EVERY DAY.<\/p>\n Gotta go.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" I watched a TV program today, where an abusive husband and his abused wife were interviewed, and again, I was astonished. \u00a0 See, I was too young to understand the whole women’s lib thing when Gloria Steinem was beginning her … Continue reading