Kindred spirits keep rolling in. \u00a0More and more women tell me they experienced being thrown away, and I”m GLAD to hear from them. \u00a0Some women are buried or burned or thrown overboard and have no voice now. \u00a0So be glad you are here, even when it seems harder to be.<\/p>\n
I told you in my book that the ONLY way I survived was through my relationship with God. \u00a0It was prayer and the presence of the Holy Spirit that helped me through. \u00a0Had I depended on people, I hate to think. \u00a0In my world, needy people are annoying, costly and even mentally ill. \u00a0Nobody wants to reach out and help, and the ones who do, almost always do it very<\/strong> grudgingly. \u00a0So the bottom line is that this is on you. \u00a0YOU must survive.<\/p>\n There are angels out there who will help you. One girlfriend saved my life. \u00a0She’d pack a suitcase and come my measly apartment, where she would cook for me and sit with me while I slept. \u00a0I could sleep when she came, and I could eat. \u00a0It was the only time I could. \u00a0She’s one of the angels. \u00a0There were others.<\/p>\n The GOOD news is that you can do it. \u00a0You might have to work three jobs for a while, as I did. \u00a0You might never have time to actually rest. \u00a0But you can do it. \u00a0And you SHOULD do it, because the women this happen to are usually the strong ones in the relationship, the one who made things happen. \u00a0So remember that. \u00a0And remember that this is a journey, one you didn’t sign up for, but a journey, NOT a destination. \u00a0So stand up, take a deep breath, and start over. \u00a0One day you will be better off than the asshole who threw you away…in MANY ways, not the least of which is that you are rid of him and his addictive, parasitic, dishonest, cheating, fiscally irresponsible ways. \u00a0Did I leave anything out?<\/p>\n It is hard when you think you’ve reached a comfortable place in life, to then have to think about working a menial job…or three of them…and living in a space that would fit into your prior home three times. \u00a0But it’s better than being murdered. \u00a0It’s better than what many women end up facing. It’s harder when you were the one with assets that the loser stole from you to give to someone else. \u00a0But hey, that other woman will get what she deserves and for you? \u00a0Life gets way better. \u00a0Revenge? \u00a0That’s not our job.<\/p>\n And listen. \u00a0You are strong; that’s why he targeted you in the first place. \u00a0You can survive and when you HAVE, you will feel SO good about yourself, realizing, probably for the first time, your own strength.<\/p>\n You will actually laugh again, and you will reevaluate your entire life. \u00a0It takes a long time. \u00a0Ten years! \u00a0I know. I didn’t believe it either, but it is true. \u00a0You will look at ‘love’ for a very long time, and you will realize that men always see love and lust as being the same; women almost never do. \u00a0You will realize that ANYBODY who does you harm CANNOT love you, no matter how many times they say it. \u00a0And you will realize that any man who starts a checklist of the things you can do for, or offer, him, need to be kicked…really kicked…out the door. And by the way, men who evaluate the appearance of body fat content of a woman are shallow assholes who truly are not worthy of you. \u00a0And that’s most of them, by the way.<\/p>\n So for me it has been ten years and I’ve cut so many cords I can’t count them. \u00a0I don’t have many people in my life from the past because I had no idea what love and friendship looked like. \u00a0I really was not loved in that life. \u00a0And I didn’t have many friends. \u00a0 I thought I did. \u00a0Thought I had a lot. \u00a0But in actuality, I had a few, and they are with me now, but hey. life is good! It really is. \u00a0I am more centered than ever, know myself better than ever, take less shit than ever, and I have survived. \u00a0And I am happy. \u00a0I live MY life now, doing things I\u00a0<\/em>like to do, and NOT doing things I don’t want to do. \u00a0And…I eat ice cream right out of the carton, sometimes for dinner.<\/p>\n You will survive. \u00a0You can do it. \u00a0This will pass. \u00a0You will be happy again. \u00a0You will laugh again. \u00a0I promise.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Kindred spirits keep rolling in. \u00a0More and more women tell me they experienced being thrown away, and I”m GLAD to hear from them. \u00a0Some women are buried or burned or thrown overboard and have no voice now. \u00a0So be glad … Continue reading