Remember that this site is dedicated to women over fifty whose husbands plan to throw them away. \u00a0Men like to say we get ‘traded in on a younger model’, but that is an horrific description of absolute devastation and humiliation we face this late in life. \u00a0 It is also a huge sign of their lack of ability to care one whit about what they are doing to us. \u00a0Please don’t try to appeal to the ‘years we have had together’ or ‘everything we’ve built together’. \u00a0They do not CARE. They have become someone else, someone unrecognizable to us. \u00a0A LOT of these men actually KILL their spouse to make way for the girlfriend (there’s a better word for that). \u00a0You need to get that, girls. \u00a0Some women don’t survive their husbands’ midlife infidelity.<\/p>\n
We are thrown away like garbage, with about the same regard for us as what happens to the trash after ‘the throw’. \u00a0 Men who do this have zero ability to consider the pain they cause us. \u00a0They are often psychopaths, and even sociopaths, definitely narcissists, and God help us, we lived long enough to get wrinkles. \u00a0That, in their minds, makes us unwanted and unlovable, and more importantly, in the WAY. \u00a0We see a lot of crime shows about men who kill their wives, and even their CHILDREN to clear the way for the bitch they pursue. \u00a0That may sound harsh, but these women know EXACTLY what THEY are doing to you. \u00a0They know. \u00a0That makes them equally evil and worthy of the B word. \u00a0And you can bet your ass that there are WAY more dead wives than anyone knows about. \u00a0This is serious. \u00a0I think I’m alive because I discovered the affair early enough to survive it. \u00a0I never could have imagined the cold evil behavior of a husband who once ‘loved’ me. \u00a0Love…we can talk about that ALL DAY.<\/p>\n
Most of us don’t see it coming. That’s why I write to you. \u00a0First, in our ‘society’, we SHOULD expect it. \u00a0This is what American men do. \u00a0Yeah, that’s a stereotype, but if you just look at statistics, I’m right more than I’m wrong about that. \u00a0So. \u00a0There are signs. \u00a0Not that we can stop this from happening; but we CAN be prepared…particularly financially…to survive it. \u00a0Wake up, watch what is happening in your marriage, and don’t ever think you’re safe from the combination of predatory women who want what you have worked for your whole life, and husbands who are shallow narcissists.<\/p>\n
You know these men. \u00a0Nothing is ever their fault; it’s always your fault. \u00a0They drag you through their life, rather than forging one that the two of you design together. \u00a0They take your life and suddenly you’re living theirs. \u00a0They are spoiled and entitled; in their mind, you live to provide their needs to them. \u00a0Your finances become theirs and go down the drain as fast as they can make it happen without you noticing too quickly. \u00a0YOU are the responsible one in the relationship, the steady hard working one, the fiscally stable one. \u00a0You know this stuff.<\/p>\n
If the man is the primary or sole wage earner and you do not have a secret account they can’t access, you’re nuts. \u00a0And that goes for ALL age groups of women. \u00a0At least, for God’s sake, save enough to pay an attorney.<\/p>\n
First and foremost, men getting ready to dump us begin to be hyper focused on their appearance. \u00a0Why? \u00a0Because that’s their nexus. \u00a0They view women VISUALLY. \u00a0Period. \u00a0No regard for our spirit, our intelligence, our heart…forget that. \u00a0It’s ALL about how we look; therefore that’s how they think women view THEM. \u00a0So they start jogging. \u00a0They start shopping for that little teensy sports car that make them look ‘cute’. \u00a0Often that car belongs to their WIFE, the one who worked for and bought it, but I digress. \u00a0They change how they dress, even get a different hair cut. \u00a0They buy different glasses, start going out more with ‘the guys’. \u00a0They start working out. \u00a0You can spot them a mile away, jogging with their big belly leading the way. \u00a0I see them and I say, “Midlife crisis!”<\/p>\n
Men start working on arm strength. \u00a0This is hilarious. \u00a0Mine got an arm tension bar and started using that. \u00a0Why? \u00a0Think about it. \u00a0When was the last time this guy needed arm strength in YOUR life? \u00a0Well with the young person they are pursuing, they’re going to be doing a lot of pushups. \u00a0Understand? So if any arm strength paraphernalia show up in your home, immediately go see an attorney. hahaha. \u00a0And hire a detective to follow them and get evidence of the affair. \u00a0That’s THE most important thing. \u00a0Evidence.<\/p>\n
Listen, this often happens very suddenly. \u00a0These husbands see a target who actually gave them the time of day, and they start the plan to destroy YOUR LIFE. \u00a0They don’t see it that way because they no longer see YOU. \u00a0They never consider at all what they are about to do to you! \u00a0You need to understand that. \u00a0Usually they are so single-minded about their new goal that they don’t realize how transparent their prep work is. \u00a0Don’t do like I did and just think it’s a harmless attempt to thwart aging. \u00a0Men are NOT that deep. \u00a0If these behaviors start, you are about to become garbage. \u00a0Prepare for it.<\/p>\n
Don’t get the impression that I despise all men. \u00a0I don’t. \u00a0Just the ones who are cold-hearted predators. \u00a0But the thing is, these assholes are EVERYWHERE, and we women don’t know it because we’ve never been over fifty before! \u00a0Only in the aftermath of our life being destroyed can we even process what happened to us! \u00a0And that’s if we survive. \u00a0Many do not. \u00a0And get this: It’s going to take you TEN YEARS to get upright again after they knock you into the pit. \u00a0How old will you be in ten years, girls? \u00a0See what I mean?<\/p>\n
Do I hate what these men do to us, late in life? \u00a0ABSOLUTELY. \u00a0It is diabolical, unforgivable, makes me wish for them to burn in Hell for eternity. \u00a0I met SO many women suffering in the aftermath of this phenomenon when I was going through mine, that I became furious. \u00a0I can now see this monster roaming among us. \u00a0See it all the time. \u00a0Wish I didn’t know about it, because I had more respect for men before I knew this stuff. \u00a0Now I know: \u00a0WE are NOT the weaker sex. \u00a0THEY are. \u00a0There are websites, lawyers, youtube videos, support groups, that teach men how to do this to us. \u00a0So, WAKE UP, fight back. You, by the way, are the smarter planner, the one who can multitask to the extreme. \u00a0Protect yourself in ADVANCE. \u00a0If it doesn’t happen? \u00a0Wonderful. \u00a0I’m just giving you some advance warning about marriage in middle age in America. \u00a0Heck, we’re lucky we don’t have stoning in America. \u00a0Many of us would die under a pile of rocks.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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