I spent a lot of time on the phone today with another thrown away wife.  She is in the throes of asset distribution, and calls me when she it trying to keep the emotion out and logic in.  I remember those days.  I remember the emotional conflict within my soul, because I was feeling every emotion on the list and couldn’t think straight.  She’s doing better than she realizes, though, better than I did.

I made up my mind years ago that I would help women any way I can when they are in this terrible place, and each time it makes me think about how human we all are, and how some of us are happily driven by urges, rather than by intelligent, sensible thinking.  What separates us from animals is our higher brain functions, the ones that make us NOT animals and therefore not subject to control by urges (one would hope).  In other words, men, we are NOT animals.  You are not an animal and by God you don’t get to have it both ways, not with smart women.  Grow up.  Have some pride and self respect.  Be worthy of the women you set out to destroy.

If you listen to pure science rhetoric, or philosophical rhetoric, you hear that men have a natural urge to plant their ‘seed’.  That sentiment makes me want to puke, because it’s an excuse.  Men have an urge. Oh boo hoo.  So do dogs.  So do birds; so do cats; so do snakes.  And here’s another clue for you.  Women have an URGE too, to nurture, to seek out the strongest specimens, to mate with the fittest and THEN, wait for it…to move on to ANOTHER fine specimen.  Oh yeah.  That’s OUR urge.  Once we reproduce with a man we’re “naturally” done with that guy.  Our sexual attraction to that guy fades NATURALLY, and we have the “urge” to move on to the next specimen that trips our trigger.  It’s to keep variety in the gene pool.  Oh you know I’m right.  How many married men whine about how they’re not ‘getting any’.  It’s all natural guys!  Just following our urges. You know, like you do.

SO.  Hello men, women have URGES too.  But many of us actually control them so we can keep on washing your clothes and cooking your meals and LOVING you for more than just the process of reproduction.  Oh, and just so you know?  The “planting of the seed” urge is FOR reproduction; it’s not to make you feel good.  It feels good so you will reproduce.  I know; you couldn’t care less.

What I’m getting at here is that while many people do not believe in monogamy, it IS possible, but it involves intelligent control of “urges” on BOTH sides.  In other words, keep your pants on and stop trolling around for extra-marital sexual stimulation.  OR STOP ASKING WOMEN TO MARRY YOU.  It’s that simple!  If you want to be with a gazillion women (fat chance) then stay single.  And this is a waste of time because the serial cheaters want two things: to feel good and to take your life away from you.

And here’s an interesting tidbit.  Men who got you to marry them so they could own you?  They will not sustain their “charm” when the lust subsides and life settles in.  And it’s that ‘charm’ that made you choose them, be attracted to them.  So they turn off the charm and what happens?  Listen. You can hear married men whining.  But it’s not about them. It’s about both.  The animals don’t want ‘both’, don’t get it, never will get it.  Ya gotta learn how to spot the dogs, the parasites.

Men who throw away women because they are serial cheaters…too nice a term…KNOW they are wrong, that what they are doing is hurting someone who loved them, but they need good women to give them a sense that THEY are good.  And ultimately they are actually looking for a mommy.  Sorry guys.  True.  They are stunted psychologically and they need a mommy to take care of them and to blame for all of their bad behavior.  With these guys, if you know what to look for you can spot the boy in man clothing.  And you can determine their psychological age. I met a ten year old seventy year old recently.  Kid you not.  Was ten when he was ten, was ten when he was seventy, will be ten when he dies.  And boy did he hate me when he knew I saw the ‘real’ him.  It was actually kind of funny.

Cheater men get to attach their sorry butts to good women and hang on until they destroy every good thing in that woman’s life…before they throw her away.  They know they will do it before they do, they know it while they are doing it, and they know it when they cheat and turn on their wife.  They know, and they do it anyway.  And society lets them get away with destroying us financially.  Because they do that too. It’s part of their game.  That’s why SO many women who owned their own homes and were financially secure wind up homeless, scrambling to try to find a place again.  Steam is coming out of my ears.  The woman I talked with today is desperately trying to keep her home!  And the cheater is heartless and trying to hurt her MORE. Which is what they do.  It’s just what they do.

So listen up women.  Please pay attention to these guys and be smart about things.  Learn about how they spend their spare time (is it trolling for sex online or otherwise, for example).  See if they value you for more than an orifice.  See if they EVER care how you feel or here’s a good one….what you THINK about things.  Why did their previous marriage fail?  Here’s the answer:  They cheated.  Don’t sell your house.  Don’t give them money.  Don’t pay their bills.  CALL THE EX and get her side of the story.  If their hobby is their computer?  You know what I’m going to say.  And remember, two of the main characteristics of these guys is charm and the ability to manipulate you.

Relationships between human beings are complex, difficult and beautiful.  Relationships between human women and male dogs?  IMPOSSIBLE.  I don’t care what scientists say about seed planting. It’s an excuse for men to behave like dogs.  Don’t buy it. If women can control our urges, so can men.  Period.  Otherwise, it’s easy.  Stay single.  This is not rocket science.

I hear that it takes ten hears to come out of this valley.  You’ve heard me say that before.  God, I hate it that I’m only in year six.  But it does get better emotionally.  It hasn’t gotten better financially, but I do feel better.  There’s hope.  But each time I touch one of my fellow thrown away wives, some of their desperation and sadness transfers to me, takes me back.  I hate it for them, wish I could take away some of their pain, make them feel better.  But it’s a solo journey and you have to walk each step one by one.  You have to walk through it and survive it.  And nobody sees this coming.  Except the creeps doing the damage.  And that’s a real shame.

I hear that there are good men out there.  Right now, I have serious doubts about that.  The world has changed and you’ve heard me say this too.  Women are becoming…AGAIN…objects.  Our rights are being negated again and we are going backwards in time.  All we can do is be careful whom we open our hearts to.  Because it is our hearts we are concerned with.  Men on the prowl for a host use that fact to their advantage.  So be careful and don’t sell your assets.  Don’t marry ANYBODY until you know their background.  These guys with what I call the ‘sh*#head syndrome’ are everywhere.  I can spot them from a mile away now.  They are always prowling and they ALWAYS want a wife.  It’s how they make part of their living…by taking your assets.

I’m watching it play out again.  And this girl does NOT deserve what she’s going through.